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How to Keep the Romance in Your Relationship while Raising Children

Feeling tired, stressed, and unappreciated is no recipe for romance. Use these tips to get the home fires burning again.


  • TIP: Give or get a massage from you partner to get things going.
  • Step 1: Make a date for sex in advance. It may not sound very romantic, but if you both know it's going down that night, you can spend the whole day looking forward to a great time!
  • FACT: A survey found that 58 percent of married women have been in the mood to have sex with their spouse within the past week.
  • Step 2: Get in the mood for romance -- even if you're not feeling it -- with positive affirmations. A few examples are "I loved being touched and touching," "I love my body," and "I love sex."
  • TIP: Send your partner a sexy or sweet e-mail or text just to let them know you care.
  • TIP: No money for a sitter? Arrange to swap services with a similarly stressed friend or neighbor.
  • Step 3: Don't talk about the kids when the two of you are out on your own. Focus on each other.
  • Step 4: Show your affection for your partner daily. Hug and kiss them goodbye in the morning, hold hands while you're out grocery shopping, or cuddle on the couch at night -- little things add up.
  • Step 5: Schedule a regular date night. To help you stick to it, commit a babysitter for that night for the next six months.

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