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How to Let Go of Someone You Love

When you let go of someone you love, it's natural to experience grief. Here's how you work through it.


  • TIP: Even if you are leaving an abusive partner, remember that the partner also had good qualities or you wouldn't have been attracted to them.
  • Step 1: Turn to friends and family for support, and listen to their advice. But don't let anyone else tell you how you _should_ feel. Only you will know when the time is right to let go of your grief.
  • FACT: The poet Kahlil Gibran once wrote, "If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were."
  • Step 2: Find a creative way to work through your feelings. Write about them or create a photo album celebrating the other person's life. Dedicate yourself to a cause that was important to them.
  • Step 3: Don't try to keep your pain buried. You may be able to suppress your grief temporarily, but you can't get away from it forever.
  • TIP: Letting go of a loved one requires working through the grief you experience when the relationship ends.
  • Step 4: Know that if your grief is left unresolved, depression and other health problems may result later on.
  • Step 5: Acknowledge your feelings. Know that sadness, fright, and loneliness are normal reactions to loss.
  • Step 6: Recognize that the emotional suffering you feel when someone you love dies is similar to what you feel when a close personal relationship ends. In both cases you must experience grief before you can let go of the other person.

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