Live drama-free by paying attention to your own problems instead of having conflicts with everyone over theirs.
- Step 1: Tell people directly when you have a conflict with them you need to resolve, rather than dealing with your annoyance or hurt passive-aggressively or talking about them behind their backs in the hopes it gets back to them.
- TIP: Be genuine in everything you do.
- Step 2: Restrain the urge to get in the last word. Let it go -- you don't have to prove yourself to anyone.
- FACT: In 2009, the Dalai Lama marked the 50th anniversary of his exile from Tibet after a failed uprising against Chinese rule. He has continued in exile to live dedicated to promoting peace.
- Step 3: Express yourself to others in constructive, kind, and encouraging ways, even when you are irritated or wounded. Class and dignity draw positive attention, and other friends who don't want drama.
- TIP: Mind your own business -- don't get sucked into others' drama.
- Step 4: Treat others as you want to be treated. Don't make assumptions about the motives of others. Never criticize, condemn, or complain.
- Step 5: Pay attention to how you talk about people when they're not around. Think before you speak, never gossip, and never speak ill of people.
- Step 6: Don't crave manufactured drama or you may develop an emotional addiction to it.
- Step 7: Live simply by reducing the level of stress and negativity in your life. Develop healthy ways to cope with the depressing stuff and focus on your own emotional health.