When you spend time regretting the past or worrying about the future, you miss out on happiness in the present. The antidote is to stay anchored in the here and now.
- Step 1: Don't try to run away from things that are bothering you. There is a natural tendency to try to avoid what makes you uncomfortable, but doing so often makes it worse.
- Step 2: Be aware when your mind starts to go on automatic pilot. You can do this by noticing new things in your current activity. Now enjoy the simple act of being.
- FACT: The biomedical scientist Jon Kabat-Zinn is credited with introducing mindfulness and meditation into mainstream medicine.
- Step 3: Let time flow. This is what happens when you are so engrossed in a task that you lose track of everything else.
- Step 4: Draw out the distance between impulse and action by staying in touch with your breathing. Your breath is your anchor to the present.
- TIP: When you live in the moment, you don't think about how well you are performing when you are engaged in a task.
- Step 5: Savor the present, and learn to take time to enjoy what is happening right now. Resist the temptation to dwell on the future or regret the past.
- Step 6: Know that living in the moment is the act of paying active, intentional attention to the present. Living in the moment means being with your thoughts as they are.