Can't quite your ex? After breaking up, do you keep returning to the relationship like a bad habit? Learn how to end a toxic cycle and say goodbye for good with these suggestions.
- Step 1: Change your routine and enjoy new things. Try that new restaurant you've been dying to visit, take in the new museum exhibit, and reconnect with old friends and recharge emotionally.
- Step 2: Embrace the experience as an opportunity to learn from. Think about why the relationship didn't work and why you're better off without your ex. Now you know what traits you seek in a significant other.
- FACT: Gloria Gaynor's breakup anthem "I Will Survive" received the Grammy for Best New Disco Recording in 1980. It was the only such Grammy ever presented.
- Step 3: Get rid of items that serve as reminders of the relationship. Throw photos of that vacation and souvenirs from last Valentine's Day into a garbage can. Delete their phone number from your cell and e-mail address from your computer and force yourself not to make contact.
- TIP: Don't compare your new boyfriend or girlfriend to an old flame.
- TIP: If you are in a physically abusive relationship, get out immediately.
- Step 4: Seek out a relationship counselor or psychologist for expert insight into why you adhere to the relationship cycle. A counselor should also be able to give you tips on how to end the revolving-door relationship on your terms.
- Step 5: Get a pen and paper and make a list of your emotions and reasons why the relationship won't work. Are you scared to leave your ex because of the unknown? Potentially jealous of their new partner? Writing down all your feelings will help you to see clearly.