Take the time and effort to properly acknowledge the thoughtfulness of your wedding guests and let them know they are appreciated.
- Step 1: Address gifts from a group of more than ten people, such as co-workers, with one card so it can be pinned to a bulletin board. If less than ten people have contributed to a gift, a thank you should be sent to each individual.
- Step 2: Include a description of the gift in the note, such as "Waterford crystal goblets," and what the gift means to you or how you'll use it. For monetary gifts, share a specific plan for the money, if you have one. Your guests will be thrilled to know how they are contributing to your new life.
- FACT: A survey completed by The Knot.com found that the average number of guests at a wedding was 149 in 2009, almost the same as the previous year.
- TIP: Thank those who arranged showers and parties for you. You can acknowledge their efforts in the same card you send thanking them for the gift.
- Step 3: Be timely. Thank you cards should be sent within two weeks after returning from the honeymoon. Wedding gifts received prior to the wedding should be acknowledged immediately. Thank you cards for shower gifts should be sent within ten days of the party.
- Step 4: Write the note in black or blue ink. Although there are many fancy, colored inks available, black and blue are easiest to read and are considered more formal.
- Step 5: Don't start the note with "I." Use "you" more than "we" or "I" throughout the note. Make the note about what they did, not how you felt.
- Step 6: Send one thank you for each gift. For example, if a friend gives you a gift at your shower and you receive a wedding gift from her several weeks later, you need to send her two separate cards -- one for each gift.
- Step 7: Send a personalized, handwritten note on heavy-duty, ivory or white folded note cards. A personalized thank you expresses sincerity and make guests feel more special than if they received a preprinted note.