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How to Stop Being Such a Jerk

You can stop being such a jerk if you can develop a genuine sense of humor about your unfounded arrogance, and maybe get along better in the process.


  • TIP: Put yourself in someone else's shoes.
  • Step 1: Admit you're human and make mistakes, even if you have trouble believing it.
  • FACT: The character Ari Gold on the long-running TV show _Entourage_ is based on real-life super-agent Ari Emanuel.
  • Step 2: Practice a little humility, no matter how foreign to your nature. Tone it down when you win, get attention for an accomplishment, or excel in class or at work. Recognize others for what they do.
  • TIP: Experiment with commuting little acts of kindness -- hold a door for someone, smile, send a thank-you note, act courteously in public -- and see if you can make it a habit.
  • Step 3: Accept that your opinions about others or about how they're handling a situation are often forms of projection. You are often accusing someone of shortcomings and behaviors suspiciously similar to your own.
  • Step 4: Restrain the urge to make dramatic sighs and arrogant smirks in response to others. They're annoying.
  • Step 5: Seek advice from the nice people you know who get along with everyone and whom everyone likes. Talk to them about how they view others and observe how they interact with people.
  • Step 6: Improve your relationships and stop being such a jerk by censoring you inclination to judge people, or to spread rumors. If you have to wonder, it's probably not a good idea to speak.

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