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How To Succeed At Speed Dating

Want to find a date, but don't have a lot of time to spend looking for that special someone? Try speed dating.


  • Step 1: Prepare a few questions that you can use to start a conversation. Think about the questions you might be asked, and work on your answers.
  • TIP: Ask questions that can be answered quickly, but tell you something about the person. Don't ask tired questions about their job or hobbies. They've heard those a hundred times. Be creative, but not weird.
  • Step 2: Arrive on time for your event, dressed in clothes that say something about your personality. Don't try to look like someone you aren't.
  • TIP: Your clothes will depend on the venue. Dress up if the event is held someplace fancy; or casually if it's at a hall or bar.
  • Step 3: Take a deep breath, relax, smile, and be confident. Don't go in with expectations or convince yourself that you have to find someone special tonight.
  • Step 4: Talk with each of your dates. Be sure to have real conversations, with both of you talking and listening.
  • Step 5: Decide who you would like to see again, and let the event organizer know, usually by marking a score card that you've been given.
  • TIP: Don't take notes during the date. Taking notes about someone right in front of them is a sure way to make them uncomfortable.
  • Step 6: Learn from the organizer which of your dates wants to see you again, and get their phone numbers. If you didn't find a match, don't worry – just wait for the next event!
  • FACT: Speed dating, invented by a rabbi, is based on a Jewish tradition of chaperoned gatherings of young Jewish singles.

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