Losing a pregnancy results in a deep sense of pain and loss. Although it's a tough subject, here's how to support your friend in her time of grief in a sensitive and meaningful way.
- Step 1: Offer your assistance. Cook a meal for the family, clean the house, or run errands. Although she may not directly ask for your help, it will be appreciated.
- Step 2: Remember the special dates. The anniversary of the miscarriage or the baby's due date may be hard for your friend to bear. Send her a thoughtful note or call her to let her know you remember and will continue to support her.
- FACT: Most often, miscarriages happen within the first 13 weeks of pregnancy.
- Step 3: Be aware of the physical symptoms of grief, like loss of appetite, unusual sleep patterns, and anxiety. Let her know she can call you at any time, day or night, to talk and work through the pain.
- TIP: If you are worried about the intensity of her grief, seek professional advice.
- TIP: Don' t exclude your friend's partner. Allow them to express grief as well.
- Step 4: Allow her to talk about the baby and what could have been. She may discuss the baby's name and how she envisioned her unborn child's future. Even if this feels awkward to you don't try to change the subject or re-direct her grief.
- Step 5: Listen to your friend. Acknowledge her pain and sense of loss. Ask questions about her experience and let her share her story. Tell her how sorry you are.