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How to Write a Wedding Card

Personalize your wedding card when giving a gift to a new couple, and they'll be sure to appreciate it.


  • Step 1: Send apologies with a present as soon as you know you can't attend the wedding, with your message of congratulations. Get it to the happy couple before the wedding date.
  • TIP: Sending a gift is good form for guests who have received invitations, though not required when you can't make it.
  • Step 2: Convey joy and hope in any note to the happy couple, but don't feel obliged to go emotionally overboard. You can accidentally offend others with insincerity.
  • FACT: As of 2010, over $19 billion a year is spent on wedding gifts.
  • Step 3: Welcome a new addition to your family with a personal expression of how well they fit in with everyone.
  • Step 4: Share personal thoughts or advice in cards to special friends, wishing them happiness in your own words. Lighthearted humor may work, depending on your relationship.
  • Step 5: Restrain your impulse to be funny, especially if you don't know both of the people getting married. Be direct, simple, and appropriate.
  • TIP: Acknowledge both spouses, even if you've only had minimal contact with one.
  • Step 6: Thank a couple who are acquaintances and not close friends for inviting you. Add a few simple words of well-wishing after the inside verse.
  • Step 7: Write a rough draft for the wedding message to be given with your gift to someone before transferring your wishes and thoughts to the card. Take the time to do it right, no matter what your relationship is.

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